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Single Princesses and Blind Dates ep 10 part 2/4

New Drama Starring: Jimmy Lin, Zhao Jing, Dylan Kuo

Ok…Relationship question for any parents that used to be single parents who started dating after being alone

So, here is my dilemma. I have a 3 year old son who doesn’t seem to be adapting well to my new relationship status. Up until 8 months ago, it had always just been me and him. I finally met a man who was worth my time (and my son’s time) but it’s proving to be a bit difficult. I’m not sure how to handle the situation since the topic of living together has come up..I want what best for my son (and myself) but what is the fine line at compromising or forwarding my relationship with my boyfriend? They seem to get along for the most part, but then other times they just clash, and I don’t really want to put my son through a lifetime of feeling left-out. I have his best interests in mind and have never dated someone just to get him a “father”. He has a great dad already but we just didn’t work out together. Ugh…
Just to clarify a bit, I’m in no hurry to move in and give up any of my alone time with my child. I know my question is a bit contradictory in parts…My son only met my boyfriend 8 months ago, after almost 4 months of making sure that this was someone worth him meeting, that wasn’t someone in a relationship with me for the wrong reasons.

If it’s hard for single parents to date someone childless, why not date other parents?

I always hear and read the complaints of single moms/dads have with dating someone who is single and childless, so why dont’ they do everyone a favor and just date other single parents?

Asking a girl out on a first date: Single or Group?

So first off, I know on a first date it’s ideal to go single, just to get to know a girl well, but if both of the people are both quiet-natured, should I maybe try to get one of my friends and his girlfriend to maybe set up a casual date that me and my potential date could join in on? Going bowling ect. I’ve talked to her in school a good bit over 2 or so weeks and she’s talking alot more to me about about anything I ask, just generally opening up (which is a good sign from a shy girl), and I dont want to wait too long to ask, as I see guys all the time talking to her. I know she is at least a little bit interested, but she just sometimes seems timid around me, like she is unsure. Would it be a bad idea to ask my friend to set up a casual date with his girlfriend (they’ve been on a few dates before, so it’s not asking too much of him) in which I can ask my potential date to join us? Or would it be a bad idea, even though both of us are quiet natured?

For single parents out there? What do you expect from people who date you? Reality check?

Well, I don’t have children on my own. But I have involved with a never married father of 2 small children.
He hasn’t dated much because he was busy concentrating on his work and his two kids. and be honest with you, his financial situation prevents him from taking any girls out. (He is on edge of filing for bankruptcy) I dated him for a while because I think he is a great person. I have been posting and reading questions here on yahoo answer, and found out people do have unrealistic expectations from women / men who date single parents.
I laid all my cards on the table. I told him “I am not going to be your kids step mother, never. I can be however, the great adult friend who is there for them. and I will not interfere with their daily life but I won’t make any decision for them. It is their parents job. Financially, it is all up to the court, however, if I decided to form a family with a single dad, I also have to watch out for my future family and my future kids.”
He told me he trusts me, respect me, and loves me. So it is all up to me. He doesn’t expect me to be the care giver or the step mom, what he wants me to be is his loving wife, well, hopefully.
I am just wondering if there is anything I have left out to say to him because reading answers and questions on yahoo here regarding dating a single parents discourage me. But I think it should be dealt with case by case. Not every situation is difficult. Just looking for advices to see if we are handling the situation in a mature kind of way. What are the potential dramas you see here in our relationship? thanks

Any single parent dating stories?

How has it been for you? I am a good guy, pretty d@m sexy (this is what ppl tell me and i do take great care of my body) I am responsible. But it seems as if kids really are a dealbreaker for most people. I am fine wiht it honestly sicne my kids give me all I need really. I would not trade my spot for the mothers spot for anything! (she is living free and single with no responsibilities…she gets the kids only 4 days out of the month and seems to be ok with it to live her single lifestyle) But I’d like to hear anyone else who is a single parent on how dating has been for you?

How to Meet Single Women – The 3 Best Ways to Meet Women

When y?u get right d?wn t? it, there are ?nly tw? dating skills that really matter t? guys: 1) Meet W?men, 2) Keep w?men.

If y?u can just appr?ach and meet w?men, y?u’ve g?t a big part ?f the game handled. After that, it’s h?w t? keep w?men interested in y?u and attracted t? y?u. Because y?u must remember that if y?u’re n?t g?ing t? keep y?ur w?man happy, s?me?ne else is waiting ?n the sidelines t? give it a sh?t.

S? here are three ?f the best ways I have used t? meet w?men. And any guy can d? them.

3 WAYS T? MEET W?MEN…

1) Meet W?men in Bars & Clubs.

Hey, this ?ne w?rks just great f?r s?me guys. I say “s?me” guys because the truth is that if y?u’re l??king f?r a girlfriend it’s highly unlikely y?u’re g?ing t? meet her in a bar. Bars are f?r quick h??kups. It’s the territ?ry ?f the “pickup artist” and the slick players. And the reality is that m?st w?men d?n’t g? t? clubs t? meet guys. (At least, that’s n?t their primary reas?n f?r g?ing t? bars.)

W?men g? t? bars t? have FUN. And… maybe meet s?me guys.

Let’s face it: Bars are cr?wded, l?ud, ?bn?xi?us, and ?verpriced. They take a l?t m?re skill because ?f the c?mpetiti?n. And the reality is that y?u’re pr?bably n?t g?ing t? meet w?men that want a steady relati?nship. But they are a great place t? meet single w?men in ?ne c?ncentrated envir?nment. It’s like the superst?re f?r meeting w?men.

2) Meet W?men in Y?ur S?cial Netw?rk

The reality is that m?st pe?ple want t? meet pe?ple wh? are friends ?f their friends. W?men like t? meet guys that they feel are “safe,” and when y?u’re a friend ?f ?ne ?f her friends, y?u’re already l?cked in as a pr?ven c?mm?dity.

First ?f all, seize y?ur ?pp?rtunities.

Y?u need t? g? t? any and all parties that y?ur friends invite y?u t?. Make sure y?u meet up with them f?r happy h?ur, ?r just t? hang ?ut ?n the weekends. Inevitably w?men will c?me al?ng with their friends just ?n the CHANCE they can meet a c??l guy.

(They w?n’t tell y?u this, but it’s true…)

Even better is t? line up a c?uple parties t? hit ?n the same night s? that y?u can find the ?ne with the best ?pp?rtunities f?r y?u. Always give y?urself ?pti?ns. Make it a p?int t? meet w?men in y?ur s?cial netw?rk, because that’s h?w w?men feel m?st c?mf?rtable meeting guys.

3) Meet W?men ?nline

I kn?w this ?ne is g?ing t? meet with a l?t ?f c?ntr?versy, but it can be the best meth?d ?f the bunch. If y?u’re n?t already using an ?nline dating service, like Match.c?m ?r s?mething similar, y?u’re missing ?ut ?n the easiest meth?d t? meet w?men ever invented.

First ?ff it’s c?nvenient. Y?u can actually sit at h?me and meet w?men fr?m the c?mf?rt ?f y?ur living r??m. Y?u can search f?r w?men with the same interests as y?u, with all the features y?u prefer. Y?u can als? schedule y?ur meetings with the w?men y?u find interesting all in a r?w. I used t? stack up as many as six meetings in a single Sunday aftern??n. I c?uld meet w?men f?r m?rning tea and be h?me in time f?r the game. But here’s where m?st guys g? wr?ng when they try t? meet w?men ?nline: They assume that w?men will just jump ?n any ?pp?rtunity t? meet them.

The harsh truth is that y?u still need t? pr?ve y?ur value en?ugh t? get a w?man t? ?verc?me her natural fear ?f strangers t? meet y?u f?r drinks. And there is a bit ?f a system t? helping a w?man thr?ugh the pr?cess ?f resp?nding t? y?ur intr?ducti?n, f?ll?wing thr?ugh with a ph?ne call, and then agreeing t? meet up with y?u. As a result, m?st guys quit their ?nline dating service within 3 m?nths. They’ll pr?bably g? back t? try it again at a later date, but with?ut m?re understanding ?f what w?men are l??king f?r and what the pr?t?c?l is f?r ?nline dating, they’ll pr?bably quit again and again.

Here are a c?uple tips f?r when y?u meet w?men ?nline that will help y?u ?verc?me these issues:

- Remember her first c?ncern: SAFETY.

A w?man needs t? feel safe. After all, y?u’re a great guy, right? Y?U kn?w that, but she’s still hearing her friends tell her the m?st ?utrage?us h?rr?r st?ries ab?ut the l?sers they enc?untered. The first time y?u talk ?n the ph?ne, make it a fun c?nversati?n. N? heavy stuff. And d?n’t even suggest y?u meet her yet. Just get her wanting m?re. Then end the call at a high p?int. Call her a day later and suggest a meet f?r s?me c?ffee ?r tea f?r 30 minutes t? “see if anything clicks.” The m?re casual y?u make this s?und, the less anxiety y?u stir int? the mix.

- Remember that a w?man is n?t expecting ?nline dating is a sh?rt-cut t? intimacy.

S?me guys assume that if a w?man is using an ?nline dating service, that she’s just ready t? bl?w right past all the f?rmalities and small talk. It’s actually the ?pp?site. She needs t? be reassured that y?u’re c??l, safe, and fun – and n?t s?me psych?. Hey, she’s already sensitive that using an ?nline dating service c?uld imply she’s l?wering her standards – ?r desperate herself. S? y?u have t? be c??l and calm and make it easy f?r her t? enj?y the pr?cess.

Take y?ur time and play the r?le ?f the reluctant suit?r. The less y?u c?me acr?ss as needy and desperate, the better y?u will appear – and the m?re y?u will stand ?ut fr?m the pack.

How to Meet Single Women

Hot To Meet a Women

As y?u can see, there are many ways t? meet w?men, and y?u need t? use them all. I have a phil?s?phy f?r guys that I call “multiple streams ?f female inc?me.” What this means is that y?u need t? use several different meth?ds t? meet w?men s? that: 1) Y?u d?n’t make ?ne meth?d t?? imp?rtant and feel t?? heavy and seri?us with expectati?ns, and 2) Y?u have backup ?pti?ns in case ?ne meth?d isn’t w?rking f?r y?u.

It’s all ab?ut pr?tecting y?ur attitude and y?ur c?nfidence when y?u’re ?ut there trying t? meet w?men. Use all the ?pp?rtunities and res?urces available t? y?u t? date m?re effectively.

Single parent AND dating – where and how is the best place?

Sincerely – what is the best way a single mom to go out and date again? Anyone out there have any success stories to share? Only sincere people respond please!
Especially when you’re shy!