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Online Dating for Teens:chunk of Members on Online Dating Agencies are Teens

Statistics show that a huge chunk of members on online dating agencies are teens. This trend is becoming a culture. Many teens will fall in love or become emotionally attached with people over the Internet. Parents will not hear of this and many are still in denial. It is a reality that they do not like encouraging in teens. Major blame has been said to be free online dating. This is an opportunity where singles register to have dating services for free. Teens are well informed and they are able to join. Most sites warn people who are below 18 years of age. There is really no way to ensure that no teenager registers. Many continue to sign up everyday in search for love and adventure. Another factor that contributes to this is the fact that Internet access has become very easy. In the west, almost all people will have cheap Internet for their disposal. This is further perpetuated by the fact that teens have the knowledge of how to work search engines. Online dating for teens is forbidden by parents and teachers. Therefore, teens do this in secret and many parents will even not know about it. There are many advantages and disadvantages that come with online dating for teens. The first thing has to be the issue of safety. There are so many online predators who are constantly taking advantage of naive teens. Many stories have been told of horrifying cases. They include murder and sexual abuse. This crime happens all the time and, this is the main reason why this kind of dating is discouraged for teens.

Online dating for teens is dangerous because there is no real emotional commitment. This happens when teens are still trying to discover their identity. They are more prone to making unwise decisions. This is the main danger that lurks. Online dating for teens is therefore very dangerous. If you are a teen, the first rule if you decide to go this way is as follows. You cannot trust anybody. You must keep in mind that no matter how long you have chatted, the other person is a stranger who you cannot totally trust. This is to build up to the to the point that, it is all about risks. Is it worth taking the risk when you can loose your life? you may not answer this question. Caution should be taken if you decide to meet the person you have been talking to. There are several things you can do to ensure that you are safe. First, never disclose the location of your home. Meet at an agreed venue. This should be a public place where people are close by. Let your gut lead you. The truth is, when you are entering a danger zone, you will feel something is not right. This is not to encourage online dating for teens who do not attain the required age.

Look for tips of how to build relationships that will work. It is vital that you take expert advise on the implications of underage and teen dating. Open your mind to learning and, you will avoid many pitfalls of life in this regard.

Why Do So Many Men Fail at Online Dating?

With the ongoing popularity of online dating, and studies reporting that over 40 million Americans participate in online dating, one must ask why two out of three men who join online dating sites quit, claiming to be unsuccessful, what are these men doing wrong??

After hours of research, interviews and observations, Sam Stone the author of “Online Dating Secret Revealed!” offers some potential root causes for these failures.

What are men doing wrong?

1. Not knowing what they are looking for.

Mistake men make:

The first most common mistake that men make is going online without a clear understanding of what they are looking for. The “what I’m looking for” section in a typical male profile on most dating sites includes little detail and is compiled of generic terms and characteristics. Most men don’t even bother to define the height range of the woman they are looking for! Not surprisingly, they all say they are looking for someone slender or athletic.

Woman’s Response:

The response such a generic profile gets is disappointing at best. In a subconscious way women interpret this type of profile as of a man who is weak and doesn’t know what he’s looking for. Women see this man as someone who is looking for attention from a woman, any woman. Most women rarely respond to such a profile. What woman wants to be “any woman”?

How to avoid pitfall:

Before going online to look for a date, a man must make sure that he knows what he is looking for. The best way to figure that out is to write down (actually write it, not just think about it) a list of the top qualities he is looking for in a woman. One should try to cover as many areas as possible. The next step is to narrow these qualities down to the top 15 and then to the top 5 qualities that are most important to him and list them on his profile. Doing so, the man will not only convey to a woman that he knows exactly what he wants but this also helps him to have an understanding of what is important to him in a woman which will save him time by focusing on those women who have those qualities and not just random women he meets online.

2. Not knowing what they have to offer. Aside from not knowing what they are looking for, the second most common mistake guys make is going online without knowing what they have to offer.

Mistake men make: Most men go online without putting much thought into what their attraction strategy will be and how they are going to present themselves. Many people (men and women) never stopped to take inventory of their lives. Most people live life on a day to day basis and never think of what the tapestry of their lives is made of. One must ask himself if he has ever taken the time to think about all the things he likes, all the things he is good at, all the things he has to offer to other people?

Woman’s Response:

Women who actually bother to read this type of generic information catalog it as just “some guy” among many. This type of profile, without a clear attraction strategy, will not get many responses from women of quality, just like most Spam doesn’t get many responses from people who receive it.

How to Avoid Pitfall:

Most people have at least some interesting things in their lives. A man interested in succeeding online must take the time to think about those things and use them to create an attraction strategy. For example, if a man is looking for very intellectual women that like to read, he must put a greater emphasis on that side of his personality in his profile. In this case, talking about wild parties might not result in attracting the type of women he is looking for.

3. How to approach a woman online?

Mistake men make:

Many guys make the mistake of using a generic feature called “wink” (also called “icebreaker”, “flirt” and other names in different sites). Winks are usually free, some sites allow a quick pre-scripted text message that was created by the site owners, and can be sent to the girl the man is interested in. A generic “wink” can be compared to a pickup line that one found on the wall of a bar which may be seen and used by every individual in the bar.

Woman’s Response

The woman receiving it has most likely already seen that line, heard it from a bunch of drunken guys who tried it on her earlier, and will consider the approach to be extremely pathetic. Unless it comes from a very attractive guy, or the first guy who ever approached her, there is little chance of getting the time of day from her and this approach will actually lower the value of the sender in her eyes.

In most cases attractive/intelligent/talented women get hundreds of winks a week, why would they even bother to look at a generic message?!

How to Avoid Pitfall:

How does one stand out then? The best way get a woman’s attention is by using emails. If one already invested all this time going online He should probably cough up the $30 or so it costs to register to the site and send an email. It takes some more work, but this might actually get a response…

4. What to say?

Mistake men make:

Most guys don’t know what to say in the first Email. The emails women get usually range from one liners saying “hey babe, what’s up” to a 5 page emails describing every single thing the guy ever did in his life from birth to this moment. Both methods and what’s in between them are bound to fail.

Woman’s Response:

My study shows that the top three things that women are looking for are: § To have a good experience § To have fun § To meet a guy who will attract them emotionally.

Emails that include little or none of this will most likely be ignored.

How to Avoid Pitfall:

The email should convey the personality traits that women are attracted to: fun, humor, confidence, and social status. This doesn’t mean that you need to tell a knock knock joke about your BMW… It’s very simple actually, all a guy needs to do is be playful, and show that he is confident enough to talk to a woman.

E.g. sometimes girls will email the same first reply twice just because they clicked the send button twice by mistake. A good response to that would be to accuse them of being in love with you and to say that they will become your stalkers… if done in a funny way they will know that you are kidding and teasing them, and they will love it and write back to deny this…

5. How much is enough?

Mistake men make:

Once a guy finds a girl he likes, and she actually responds to his emails and starts an email exchange, it’s very tempting to just keep the relationship online. However, it is highly discouraged to get into a lengthy email exchange.

Woman’s Response

My study found that the more a guy emails the girl, the less likely he is to ever meet her. Another downside of a long email relationship is that the more the two email each other, the more of a “fantasy” about each other’s personality is created in the couples’ minds. These fantasies are not based on real behavior but on how the mind fills the gaps between what they know about each other through their emails and profiles and the real person. Once they meet, they will both discover that in most cases this fantasy is not real and they will both be disappointed.

How to Avoid Pitfall:

My study found that in order to successfully move on to the next step, an email exchange should be no more then 3-5 emails long before the guy asks the girl out on a date. In these emails, a guy should keep on trying to get to know her, and learn more about her while providing fun and interesting conversation to keep her coming back for more.

6. Assuming online attraction offline.

Mistake men make:

This is a trap many men fall into. A common reason for failure that came up again and again in the study was : “Our email exchange went so well, she kept complimenting me and saying how much she wants to meet me, but when we met it was as if we were strangers” This problem comes from assuming that online attraction automatically continues in the real world.

Woman’s Response

When communicating online, the girl has very little to go by, so her brain (this goes for guys too) creates a fantasy guy that has all the qualities the man is displaying in the email. Of course, in many cases this “fantasy man” has nothing to do with the man she is communicating with.

When they meet, both of their fantasy worlds are shaken up and the woman feels as if she’s meeting a stranger for the first time (suddenly the guy doesn’t look or act anything at all like her fantasy guy). She suddenly has to deal with the transition from the safety of hiding behind a computer to actually standing face to face with a real live person.

How to Avoid Pitfall:

The way to overcome this is to re-generate attraction! How do you do that? It’s simple; the guy has to recreate what he did in his emails. Tell funny stories, tease her, and demonstrate the attractive qualities we mentioned earlier. This should get her back to remembering all the good feelings she had when the guy was emailing her and will get her attraction back up again.

7. Not leading the online or offline conversation.

Mistake men make:

Many girls who date online expect their first date to be like an interview (in our study we even had a TV reporter that found it extremely hard to break from this structure…). The “Interview” style date is probably the worst way to have a first date! First of all, it’s boring! A date shouldn’t be a job interview; it should be fun, for both people. Second, it shows lack of confidence. Think about it, who does most of the talking when the guy “interviews” and asks the questions? She does! This “lets the guy off the hook” of being interesting, exciting and funny and doesn’t really convey anything about his personality aside from being a good listener, but that’s not one of the top qualities that is going to get the guy a new girlfriend. Third, an “interview” style date forces the girl to lead the conversation and most women are very uncomfortable in this situation; they don’t feel comfortable leading the conversation.

Woman’s Response

Many of the women that I interviewed indicated that their train of thought was: “I’m hot, I don’t need to prove myself, this guy is just sitting there and nodding, probably just thinking about how I look naked” and similar comments to this.

How to Avoid Pitfall:

If the guy doesn’t take control of the conversation from the start, he will most likely not get a second date. Taking control of the date means the guy must tell stories: funny ones, exciting ones, interesting or mysterious stories, he must keep the conversation going. A guy should spend the first 10 minutes or so of the date talking most of the time.

8. Falling in love before the first date.

Mistake men make:

Guys have a tendency to “fall in love” with a girl they meet online and feel that they need to “prove their love to her” even before they meet.

A guy shouldn’t go overboard in doing thing for a woman at first. A guy should not show any supplicative behavior that shows that he needs to do anything besides being himself in order to get her to like him.

In some cases our study found guys who set up elaborate websites for women, or created online play lists for them with music they might like. It’s very sweet, very romantic, but it’s something that you do for someone that you know.

Woman’s Response

Any time a guy goes out of the way to please a woman in order to get her to like him, he is lowering his value in her eyes. Would he go out of his way like this for a total stranger? No, and that’s what she is right now… What the guy is communicating to the girl is “my personality alone is not worthy of your attention, so I will do things for you so that I become worthy”.

How to Avoid Pitfall:

Once the couple has been dating for a while, the guy can go ahead and do nice things for her, but for now, he hasn’t even met her in person yet. For all he knows, she might be a 13 year old boy messing with him online. A man needs to qualify her as to why she is worthy of his time, not qualify himself as to why he is worthy of her time!

9. Grow up!

Mistake men make:

The worst mistake a man could make in online dating (and in life as well) is not willing to act like a grown man. Many men get stuck in “Baby mode” – they aren’t willing to grow up and realize that a grown man’s’ personality and behavior are not affected by a woman’s reaction to them, or the results of the interaction with women.

A grown man will realize that not all women will be attracted to him, love him or that it takes work and time to get good at dating women. Grown men don’t get offended when a woman doesn’t write back to them, and as a result send her a nasty email talking about what a terrible person she is.

Woman’s Response

Throughout our study I’ve seen emails from guys going through a whole range of negative emotions to why the girl didn’t answer them while all that happened was that the girl was out of town and didn’t mention it to them (in one case, the guy went from being cute to being self conscious “are you not answering me because of my looks?” and eventually he started using abusive language and ranting about her low sense of morality. Obviously, this type of behavior did not generate a positive response…

How to Avoid Pitfall:

Guys – Grow up! If a girl doesn’t respond, or doesn’t react like you want her to, follow up, try a different approach, and if that doesn’t work, then move on… there are plenty of girls out there. (If you look at a typical large city there are about 60,000 eligible women in your age range, which means that even if you want to meet only 10% of them it will take 16.4 YEARS of going out on a first date every night to meet them all…).

10. This is the worst mistake of all!

The worst mistake a man could make in online dating and in life is not getting the help he knows he needs! Guys don’t like to look weak and ask for help, but think about this: Two out of three men make enough mistakes online for them to think that “online dating doesn’t work”. Obviously, it does work for the other 1/3 of the people that are on it so its not “online dating” that does not work, it’s something they are doing online that isn’t working for them. Someone once said, “if you keep on doing the same thing, you’ll always get the same results”, this is why it’s important to get help and try to fix some of these mistakes you are making, and not feel helpless when you are not getting any responses to your emails and profiles.

Sam Stone is the author of several books on dating and relationships including “Online Dating Secrets Revealed!”, the “Confidence Manual” and of onlinedatingpro.com.

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Personals Can Help You Give The Best Dates Online

The rules for shopping or running online personal ads are pretty much the same as newspaper ads. However, some online singles’ sites offer a lot more room for the introductory ad, so you can be more creative in your ad writing.

Some services like Match.com charge a membership fee, while others like Yahoo! don’t. Even those that charge usually offer some kind of free introductory period. Each site has a little different personality. Some (often the paid membership sites) offer classier and more imaginative ads. Many have a wide range of ads from well written to crude. Be prepared to skip over some of the ads if you aren’t comfortable with fairly adult language. If, after checking several supposedly appropriate entries, you find the whole tone of the site is wrong for you, leave that one and check into a different singles’ site.

It’s very frequent that users write in saying, “I never get any replies to my ad!” It’s my earnest request that they sit back and objectively, at least once, scrutinize their Ad from a surfer’s perspective. Human nature is no different online than it is offline. Spot an attractive face and you turn to take a second look…see a humorous punch line and you invariably stop to read. So it really boils down to whether you have put in the right amount of effort while making your profile because if you have not, then that’s exactly the kind of replies you’ll get – none!

INVESTMENT. Be it your time or money. If you cannot spend either or both, you really shouldn’t bother because an incomplete, half done profile is like an uncooked dish, very unappetizing. Online Dating is all about making a good first impression because once someone clicks to the next profile, there’ll be no second chance.

OPENING LINE. Splatter your profile with humour, drama, funky metaphors…as they draw instant attention and interest. You have barely 2 minutes before a surfer clicks to the next profile if not intrigued to read yours!

HONESTY. Lies can never be the root of a strong relationship; those based on it will eventually crumble. Being honest portrays you as a better human being which down the line is the only important thing.

STRINGS. A study of female psychology reveals that women seldom look for a ‘no string relationship’. If it is a relationship it is bound to have strings. Women of all description can find casual physical relationships without lifting a finger. To mention that you are ‘seeking a torrid summer romance’ is fine and so is ‘I’m not eager to move in or get married’.

BE POSITIVE. And avoid negatives. This place has been provided to list what you are looking for and not all the things you don’t want. Turn your own lifestyle quirks into positives attributes.

POST A PHOTO. It’s an established fact that a profile with a clear, happy picture is 80% more likely to get a response. Don’t use a photograph that isn’t current… it isn’t worth the rejection you will face later.

COMMUNICATE. It’s important to come across as a progressive individual who seeks growth. Say what you think and believe in, and would wish the other to know about your personality. Talk about what is important in your life. Highlight your positive points as this is what makes a profile interesting enough to be read.

PASSIONS. Listing ALL your favourite things can be a handful… Choose one good example and talk about why you like it. Choose something that gives the reader an insight into what you enjoy. Interest them in learning more with a teaser about a fascinating thing about you. Ask a question for them to answer via email.

Display your personality in a tasteful way, take all the time to do a good job, and put up a good photograph. These itself will get you far ahead of the remaining anonymous pack.

Q&A: Online Dating – Can You Fall In Love Without Meeting?

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Meeting A Woman For The First You Met Via Online Dating

Online dating is a great way to meet someone new in your spare time. Gone are the days where you had to go to a club or a bar just to meet someone new. You can now meet people all from the comfort of your computer – and it’s just that simple. But when doing online dating, it’s important that you remain safe – and this is what this article will help you to do.

It’s important that you don’t give out any revealing information to someone that you don’t know. For example, it’s best if you waited at least 2 weeks before giving your phone number information out to a woman. This will ensure that you’ve gotten the chance to get to know her better and you-two are well acquainted.

Another thing that you will want to do is utilize the instant messaging feature that most dating sites have. This will allow you to get to know a woman better while still doing more than just emailing her. Some women will want to rush the initiation process of getting to know you better, but it’s best if you took things slow.

When meeting for the first time, it’s best that you meet at a place that makes you most comfortable. A good place to meet at for the first time “date” or “meeting” is the coffee shop. Taking her down to a coffee shop shows that you aren’t thinking ahead in terms of a future with her – and this is a good thing. The mistake that alot of men make is that they think of their date as a potential wife while the woman just sees it as another date. You need to acquire this mindset also which is why you should take her to a Starbucks. This low cost approach is a great way to clear the air and get to know a woman better.

No matter what location that you choose, you will want to make it a place where the both of you feel comfortable with the location. Never take your date to a place where it’s gloomy and dark inside. This gives off the wrong perception of your taste and style, and this is not the first impression that you want to give to a woman.

Instead, take her someplace that has alot of light. If you’re going to a restaurant, make sure that it is a well-known place to attend. For example if you know that she likes Italian food, take her to the Olive Garden. If you know she likes seafood, take her to Red Lobster. These ideas will help you when trying to have a successful first date.

Online dating has evolved over the years and you can take advantage of the growing technology behind it. For example if the dating site that you are on has instant messaging capabilities, setup little mini dates online to get together and talk. This little mini date idea will set the stage for the real thing. It won’t feel as weird because you both are already accustomed to doing it online.

If you want to have success with online dating, it’s important to take note to the little things also. It doesn’t matter if your goal is to date as many women as possible or to find the 1 best woman for you – your profile still has to stand out from the crowd. To do so, make sure that you have some updated photos of yourself. You will also want to complete all sections of your profile. This will allow women to determine whether or not you’re the right one for them.

Hopefully these tips will get you on the right track for having success with online dating.

Good luck meeting the woman of your dreams on the internet.

Guys, Ten Hot Tips for Meeting Women On-Line – # 1

Guys, Ten Hot Tips for Meeting  Women On-Line – # 1  The Three Death Traps

Part 1 of 10 Series

The Three Death Traps: We all believe we are friendly, even if you are not interested try to be polite.     If you are not your  body language will give you away. It’s one of the major complaints from on-line daters. “I could tell by her body language that she wasn’t interested.“

Beware of the three death traps when meeting on line

(a)    You think you can tell within half an hour who is right for you and who is not

We believe you cannot. Have you noticed when you are in a new environment that you don’t think much of these new people until you learn their expertise and their nature? It makes such a difference. Whether you are at a new work place or a new club you have just joined. People don’t look very interesting until you know more about them. It’s the same with women. Therefore you cannot judge instantly as well as you thought you could.

(b)   You were expecting this introduction to be Ms Right. You take one look and think, there is no way I would marry her.  You are disappointed, she is shorter than you want or she is 5 kgs. heavier than you wanted for a partner. Your disappointment shows – the body language. We advise not to expect Ms Right with every person you meet. Just expect to make some friends and practise being Mr Right instead of looking for Ms Right.

A word of warning, it takes a lot of practise at being Mr Right before people start to think you are Mr Right.

There is only going to be one Ms Right. All the others are trial runs for you to practise treating women the way you would like to be treated so that you come across as popular.  To improve your network of friends be nice to everyone and they will  introduce you to their friends.

Are you one of those who says, “I know how to charm the right person?”  Really?! If you are used to behaving like a jerk but think you can change when you meet Ms Right let me assure you that we are what we think about. We behave most of the time on automatic pilot and when you are on your best behaviour, you will be fine but when you are distracted you will naturally revert to automatic jerk behaviour and this jerk behaviour will let you down badly just when you need it.

(c )          Your Ms Right will find you if you act like Mr Right. Put Ms Right out of your head and start treating people the way you would like to be treated. If she presents reasonably well, is intelligent and genuine her friends will be the same. You won’t  meet her friends if you are not behaving in a warm friendly manner. Behaving like the type of person you would like to meet.

Most people are not experienced at picking a Ms Right instantly. Research has shown that everyone meets at least one Ms Right every year.  The problem is that you don’t recognise them instantly.  Instead of looking for the right one concentrate on being the right guy and let them find you. Popular people find this easier to do. Can you prove to yourself you can be popular?

Other topics in this series

Guys, Ten Hot Tips for Meeting  Women On-Line – # 1   The Three Death Traps
Guys, Ten  Hot Tips for Meeting Women On-Line – # 2   Positive Plus
Guys, Ten Hot Tips for Meeting  Women On-Line – # 3   Don’t Judge A Book By It Cover
Guys, Ten Hot Tips for Meeting  Women On-Line – # 4   Show Enthusiasm
Guys, Ten Hot Tips for Meeting  Women On-Line – # 5   Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone
Guys, Ten Hot Tips for Meeting  Women On-Line – # 6   Allow the Time to Meet Ms Right
Guys, Ten Hot Tips for Meeting  Women On-Line – # 7   Women Like Fun Guys
Guys, Ten Hot Tips for Meeting  Women On-Line – # 8   You Don’t Have To Be Perfect
Guys, Ten Hot Tips for Meeting  Women On-Line – # 9   Experience Counts
Guys, Ten Hot Tips for Meeting  Women On-Line – # 10 Look Your Best

‘Cougars’ On Prowl With Online Dating Site

‘Cougars’ On Prowl With Online Dating Site
Online dating site cougarsandco.com hosted a “Little Black Dress Bash and Halloween Fashion Party” Thursday night.

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